Can Long Distance Relationships Work In College?
I’m not going to get into every little detail of my love life but the facts are me and my girlfriend go to two different schools. We visit with each other as often as possible usually every two or three weeks for the weekend. What I’m really looking for right now is some confirmation from all the females out there who have been in long distance relationships that they didn’t cheat on their boyfriends. However if that’s not the case I’d love to know what went wrong so I can do everything in my power to prevent the love of my life from slipping away from me.
Ok here’s the thing. I’ve been doing long distance with my boyfriend for 2 years now.
I visit him every summer/winter break. And it has been HARD. We’re not even in the same continent let alone the same country.
I have never cheated on him, and never want to. He has never ever cheated on me and I know he’s never wanted to either.
If you love someone, I mean really love someone, cheating on them isn’t even an option, it won’t even cross your mind (…well, maybe for 1 second but then again we’re only human. it hasn’t happened to us yet though).
I’m going to University in Canada and he’s allll the way in Dubai where I lived and where my family is. It’s ridiculously difficult and I’m not going to lie we fight and our phone bills are intense. lol.
But…he’s the man I’m going to spend the rest of my life with. We didn’t give ourselves the option to “Take a Break” or whatever it is. Because the moment you give in to that, consider it over. A relationship isn’t like a game or a movie that you can pause and come back to later. You can’t save a relationship to an empty slot (wow I sound like such a geek lol) and come back to it and expect it to be the same. You have to keep working at it.
It’ll be long and painful and lonely but you have to trust each other. And, make commitments like, webcam or chat dates. They really help. And don’t cop out of those and flop on her and don’t let her flop on you.
Before you start doing the long distance thing, tell her exactly what you want/need from her and she should do the same. Don’t go into this blindly and “hope things work out” cause they won’t do it by themselves. YOU have to work things out. You have to do the work. And by you, I mean the both of you.
…on the other hand, if you’re sure you don’t love her 100% and she’s not sure if she loves you 100% then it’s not worth it. It really isn’t. Long distance is not for the weak.
And, sometimes it’ll feel like love isn’t enough to keep you together. Sometimes you’ll start to think “realistically”. But what’s realistically? That’s only what YOU picture it to be. What seems to be logical thinking is just one of you being impatient.
So yeah, you’ll both or one of you at different points in time, will feel like love isn’t enough.
But it is.
You’ll make it enough. And that’s the truth.
OHHHH and one more thing:
you will fight. BIG HUGE RIDICULOUS STUPID FIGHTS about which club you went to and which party she went to, etc etc.
But don’t worry. These are normal and the moment they stop means you guys don’t care anymore.
These fights come from insecurities. if she’s accusing you of stuff and you’re getting offended, the best thing to do is address her insecurities. Tell her nothing happened. But don’t be like “LOOK GOD, nothing hAPPENED what’s WRONG WITH YOU YOU’RE SO ANAL!”
You get the picture. Talk to her the way you’d want HER to talk to you if you were worried about something she may have done. simple.
that’s so sweet
I’m in a long distance relationship
and my parents don’t approve of my bf
and they don’t let me hang out with him
so i never see him
and he goes to another school
I’m a sophomore
hes a freshman
were high school students
i live in new jersey
he lives in new york
making it harder for us to see each other
and we’ve been together for 10 months
almost a year
if she loves you, she wont cheat on you
and if you love her, you will do the same
10 months
the first 6 months we saw each other every day because we went to the same school
but then came summer vacation
and he got kicked out of our school
so he went to a new york school
and moved there
we still continue our relationship, no matter what happens
also, to some people this seems weird but everything we do, we do it by texting
were only 14 and 15
hes 15 I’m 14
if i wanna kiss him, i write -kisses-
if i wanna hug him i write -hugs-
and were okay with that
because we love each other
and on top of that, i cant even see him during the breaks like winter break or anything
but i know that hes faithful to me
if you two are truly in love and committed to each other, there is no reason it wouldn’t work out. The fact you guys set aside a weekend when you can shows you’re both committed to continuing your relationship. I don’t think it’ll be easy, and you both may hit rough patches, but if your bond is strong enough, you will overcome any obstacles.
that’s not always the case however. I have seen couples do the long distance relationship, and while it may have worked for a little, eventually one (or both) had finally checked out and the relationship fizzled. Just treat your girlfriend right so she knows what she’d be missing out on and giving up if she ever decided to be unfaithful