How Do You Keep A Long Distance Relationship Alive?
My boyfriend and I have been together for more than two years. I’m moving to the Philippines for college, which is THOUSANDS of miles away from home. I’ll only be able to come back to NJ about once a year, and he’ll only be able to visit me about once a year. :[
I'm really serious about our relationship AND my education. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to make things work out, or know any websites that can offer tips and advice?
Thanks. :]
i LOVE ldrs! they are PHENOMENAL!! i LOVED it!!!
anyway, use a webcam, facebook/myspace/twitter/ect, talk, text (dont text too often though because it detracts from ypur tone and fluency), and snail mail (i know it sounds stupid, but it’s great to get get mail in the mailbox from someone you care about, especially when they dont tell you and youre like “awww!” and feel all warm and fuzzy inside because you feel special and remembered and stuff). when he visits, show him all your new friends, places to hang out at, and the rest of the world he hasnt seen. spend as much time together and make it a memorable everytime he pops in.
good luck with you and your man!!
myspace, facebook, webcam session, talk on the phone. Don’t over do it or it can get boring
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My last two relationships were long-distance, and wow they were tough. I’ll help you by telling you what went wong in mine.
Firstly, I’ll give my side of it: Both of the girls I dated were younger than myself and had alot of growing up to do. When people are immature, it’s hard for them to “remember” what the relationship is like when you’re physically together. I quote, “I guess I just get used to being on my own when I’m down here for school”. You may talk once a day, and unless both people are mature enough, you’ll really just start to be a single person that happens to have a boyfriend for about 2 hours a day. It’s obvious that you’re mentally preoccupied (in your own world/life) when you do finally talk, and that’s really hurtful.
Here’s the girls perspective: I guess both at some point or another resented me for keeping them from doing what they wanted. When you’re physically together, it’s easier to stay focused and remember that this relationship IS what you want. It sucks bc you’re caught in a trap: Talking less is not an option bc then you stop caring about the person as much, and talking more isn’t either bc at some point, one of the people gets resentful for having to stop their life just to cater to the relationship.
I think the only way a long distance relationship can work, is if BOTH people really do want this, moreso than friends or schoolo or work. The only way you can do that is if you’re close to positive you want to spend the rest of your life with this person. I mean all those things are important, but ultimately your spouse is your bestfriend and you’re going to school and to work so you can have money….money that you spend with and on your spouse and kids.
Anyway… Long distance relationships shouldn’t happen casually. Don’t just date somebody that far away unless you both talk, and you’re SURE you WANT a future together. Otherwise it just won’t work and one of the two will eventually start to slack and focus more on their indiviual life. That’s when the problems start. Good Luck!