Long Distance Lesbian Relationships?
so i’m 19 and am in my second long distance relationship with a girl. the first one lasted over a year and she moved in with me about 7 months into it. at the end i realized our relationship wasn’t healthy. i felt like she was my child because even though she is 2 years older than me, she didn’t have a good head on her shoulders and was completely unstable. she didn’t make me happy at all. so we ended it. a few months later, when i least expected it, i met a girl at the college i go to. turns out she was from england and only here for a semester abroad. we spent a month together. at first we were just friends and flirted a lot. but then we took it a bit further, not realizing it would turn into something. we had sex about 6 times in that entire month, but i didn’t mind that it wasn’t very often and neither did she. we just loved spending time together. she went to san francisco, and i ended up buying a $600 ticket to go with her. on that trip we realized we were completely in love. and she had to go back to england a week later. she left on may 17th. but came back on july 1st. and spent an entire month with me and left on tuesday. this past month has been the best month of my life. she makes me so happy and the love we have for each other feels so different than any other love we’ve had for anyone else. the sex is amazing. we just click so well, and we’re completely comfortable together. i love every second we spend together even when she annoys the hell out of me, but it’s the kind of annoying that i love. i love her even when she bugs me (which isn’t often, fyi). i can’t explain it. she’s been gone for a day and a half and i miss her more than words can describe. i just feel like something is missing. as far as i know the next time i can see her is in december. i want to spend a month in england over my break between semesters. we’ve been dating for 3 months as of today. i don’t want this to end because of the distance and it’s not that i think it will, it’s just i’m so scared it will effect the way we feel. she has plans to move to the US either in feb or may… depending on if she’s going back to university in england. any suggestions on how to make this easier? we talk as much as possible.. esp on skype and i have calling cards, etc. i just don’t think any amount of skype conversations are going to make me miss her any less… on another note does anyone have advice on how to get her in the country legally and stay here? one of her best guy friends here said he’d marry her. i know it’s illegal, but idk what else she can do. the work permit thing seems ridiculously hard.. plus it seems like you have to have some “special skills that the US is in demand for” in order to apply for one. i wish i could pack my life up and move to england with her sometimes, but i can’t… i’ve got 3 years left of school. =/ any advice or anything would be appreciated. thank you!
ps: sorry this is a novel. you should get an award if you read all this, let alone if you answer.. =]
I know how you feel. I am in a long distance relationship right now and sometimes I miss her so bad it hurts but I will try to give you some ideas of what we do that helps us feel more connected.
We read to each other, like record ourselves reading a favourite story and then email it to each other.
We try to email each other just telling about how the day went, what you did etc etc, even the normal everyday boring stuff.
Old fashion snail-mail, though expensive, can be fun too.
There are also a ton of resources for more ideas on the net, these are just some that we’ve tried and found really helpful. The second link there is a link to a book that I bought that gave me some good ideas on how to make it work without the missing so much. I would quote more from it but at the moment it is with my g/f.
Unfortunately I can’t give you much help for the immigration stuff… being Canadian and all… Of course up here you could marry her and she could have citizenship… but I would say take your time, it will work out the way it is supposed to and try not to break too many laws
Good luck
Sucks about the no penis thing, i don’t see why they are so great anyway (no offense meant to those who have one)
Well gay marriage is legal in mass. and cali, why not marry the girl if your in love? I say take your time and see how things develop when you visit in December. Hope that long distance thing works out for you. It would drive me crazy.
srry they usually dont last
it can work.. together feel the same thing for each other
you should stay with her
That’s really sweet,
okay so to get her here legally,
she can apply for a visa,
i mean yeah if her guy friend is willing to do that for her then why not,
but she has to have some reason for being here,
like a place to stay
0900 1-850055
that’s the number that you can give her so she can apply for a visa,
but it may take a while,
I’m currently waiting for someone to come overseas to be with me
You guys seem like your really in love ,
so i think everything will work out,
i wish u alot of luck and i wish i could be more help.
Ok..I read your whole story
If you are in love and you want it to work then you will do anything to make it work. You may have ups and downs until you can get together but you gotta do what you gotta do. If it’s meant to be (and it sounds like it is) then you will be together ASAP. You never know what the future holds until it happens. Best wishes to you both. I hope it all works out! The fairytale ending would be nice. 
As for the visa…my friend from NZ came over on a school visa and was able to work at the same time. She could go “back to school” again in the U.S. But really research the visa thing as it can be dicey.
sorry, i didn’t read the whole thing but i get the central idea so i think i can answer your question.
Trust me, long distant relationship is hard work and could be pretty unstable for both parties; there are variety of things that you need to take account of, such as financially, emotionally, time, distant, physical and emotion needs, etc.
I had read a post about this guy borrowed 40,000$ from bank to send his BF to a military school in for some number of years. In the end, he discovered that his Bf is a Fcukin cheater, etc.
My point is… don’t put your hope too high. yes you should try to work thing out with her with your best ability, but even if it doesnt work in the future, try not to kill yourself over this.
I think your taking a lot of financial moves. I personally wouldnt do all of that for love a long distance. I know your going to think this is cliche: STAY in school
honestly, tis your best bet. dont get caught up in girls and make your grades suffer. finish school and then find a partner on your level. that seems to be the problem anyhow. and try a local relationship..I hope all goes well 
p.s. I read the whole thing