Long Distance Problem?
my family is living n another country..my bf don`t want us to get separated again because of long distance so he got me preg! [it was confirmed that i was preg when we got separated again by distance]..we both want this baby and we are so happy to have this!
now the problem is,my parents don`t want me to go back to the country where my bf is if were not still married..but my bf promised to his parents that we will get married after his college..and 2-3 years more college! [i think my bf`s parents don`t want us to get married unless my bf has not finished school yet]..now,my bf wants me to go back home but my parents dont agree with it! im confused so any advice what to do? we cant like even see eachother unless we are married! eventhough he`s the father..
If your having a baby you have just step into the grow-up world and let me tell you something that child needs both parents.
That baby did not ask to come into the world but this is happen, so therefore the responsibility is you both give that baby the best life possible no matter what people think.
Your question is not easily understood, you make no mention of either’s age.If both of you are of legal age,then the final decision is yours and your bf,not the parents(even if they disagree). My opinion: First; YOU, need to understand that ,you were also involved in the getting pregnant process(not just bf). Second; you both need to realize that raising a child is a big responsibility that requires:love,patience, understanding,guideance,time, and money. This does not mean only when you and bf feel up to it,you must be willing and prepared to meet these and other demands involved in becomming a parent at all times.(example: all hours of the night, party with friend nights, that weekend getaway you;ve waited for,when parent is sick or tired from work, etc) BF(and you)need to understand that becomming parents means;your wants and needs are no longer #1. baby must be fed even when there is no money or job. This is still PARENTS responsibility ,not Grandparents.third: BF should have thought of college before decieding to become a father, it is not your parents place to provide the pre-natal care, his love and concern for be for you now more than himself.Anyone can be a father /mother, but it takes a real man /woman to be a dad/mom. You two talked the talked , now walk the walk.
o gosh he got u preg on purpose???? u agreed to that right? i would think there is a more easier solution to get out of that but o well……just talk it out with the parents….there has to be some middle ground here….tell them u want to be with the father of your child and you will be responsible now and see what that does