Long Distance Relationship Dilemma…please Help?
So my boyfriend and I are long distance because of school. He’s a senior, I’m a junior in college and we’re at universities 3 hours apart from each other. We’ve expressed how much in love we are and how we plan to marry each other one day. The latest bump in the road comes from the fact that he coaches a “semi-pro” football team that has practices and games every sunday. So here’s the deal, we planned on switching off weekends visiting each other. However, he already promised this guy, who doesn’t have a mode of transportation to get to the dome where they play, that he’d drive him. This guy had helped out my bf with rides last football season. So in a nutshell, we thought that the weekends would be 50/50, but it looks like I’m going to have to go see him every weekend. I did this last year, drove long distance to see a bf every weekend and I felt like an idiot once we broke up. I dont want him to feel he has to give up his team but I dont want to do all the work. What should I do?
You may need to decided whether it’s worth it or not to do all this work. You do have quite a dilemma because honestly it’s not really in his control. BUT you could map out the calendars and see if there is anyway he could just be there on fridays and saturdays. Then you can see him but just not for as long. Or you could see him during the week or try to see if theres a way around your school schedules. Good luck sweetheart!!
p.s. It’s great you are cautious of future breakups and not doing all the work. Realistically you shouldn’t have too.
Wow! A semi-intellectual question! since you have already been crapped on in situations like this one….I wouldn’t drive “every” weekend. even if you can’t see each other….see how much effort he will use to get to you
get over it if he likes u. u like him what is the problem
Only go every other weekend, as planned.
wait. it is painful fun for you
there’s nothing wrong doing something for the one you love if you have the available time and he isn’t..that’s what you called giving your best..and nothing to regret in the end if ever you broke up..so maybe he can make up if he already have time.. Being broadminded and understanding is not a bad thing, especially on your situation.
If you can drive the three hours to see him go for it. For three years of my relationship my bf lived 18 hours away from me, we only saw each other once a year. I understand how it would be upsetting that he can’t split the weekends like he agreed to, but if the reason is because of his career, there isn’t really anything you can do about that. How would you feel if the roles were reversed and you couldn’t make it instead? Wouldn’t you want him to make the effort to go see you? If you both really want to make this relationship work, I think it’s worth the extra effort. Maybe he can make it up to you by a trip for two once the season is over. Or just go see him every other weekend.
I’m not joking when I say this but 3 hrs isn’t that long when you think of a lot of people who can’t even see their loved one because they are over seas. However, if my man was here and I could see him I would tell him to pay me the gas money to get up there.
JUST BE LUCKY YOU GET TO SEE HIM AT ALL AND DON’T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT HIM BEING ATTACKED EVERDAY!
just go every 2nd weekend what is it they say……………… absence makes the heart grow fonder
good luck
Compromise…if he cant come up to see you then wait go see him and then wait until he goes to see u and then u can go see him again. Dont do all the work, it isnt fair. Dont give him a hard time either….try to work things out, if you love him, be patient.
Good Luck….
make him come visit you on friday – saturday. or if you do end up doing all the driving, let him pay for all the gas since you are putting in all your time driving.