Long Distance Relationship.. How To Make It Better?
*sighs* well here I go.. I have a long distance relationship with my bf we have been together for 7 months..its been great we email each other, chat on gmail, and talk on the phone so wats the problem? well our parents dont know any of this they dont know were dating, they dont even know that my bf and I know each other.If they knew they would kill me im so sure of it..im not allowed to date I have those parents who are strict..they think I dont know wat love is or any of that bull but I know wat im feeling and its def love. It makes me sad cuz they put me down alot saying i dont know anything about love and its just a waste of time for now..that i should wait. well it wasnt my fault i feel this way! am I right? anyways I met my bf online we have been best friends for 3 yrs and last year we starting liking each other even more im really liking it we have never met in real life but i know its not some creep cuz i talk to him on the phone and his lil sister so i know its him…. plz plz plz dont be cruel about our age difference he just turned 15 and i’m 18 which I just turned…i know crazy right? but I love him so so much I have never felt this way for a guy he just amazes me..we plan on meeting in life when we are in college which is probably a long time the fact I graduate this year… we both have a future on being someone..have a professional life..we want to get married def and we want to just be with each other for the rest of our lives..I really want to grow old with him i know it sounds crazy but its one of my dreams in life…lately its been hard for him cuz he keeps asking me wat if it wont work out? as in the distance and all? but its hard keeping in contact since his parents “almost found out about us” so she took his computer away from him so we talk..just like 3 days in a week..we used to talk like everyday but ever since his mom found out :/ its been hard. my q is how do you keep in contact with ur long distance relationship? btw we both cant text each other, send letters ect. we can only talk online and on the phone but we only talk on the phone when our parents arent home. Thnx so so much in advance.
Well I think that Allison had allot of good advice but I thought that as someone that is about 10years older than you I would give my thoughts on this as well. Long distance relationships can work! and there is nothing wrong with finding someone online (I did) BUT you do need to be very, very, very careful! especially since you are young and there are ALLOT of creepy men (and women) out there! I think that video chat is a good idea you guys should get a web cam so you can see him and know for sure that he is who he says he is and he can see you! Now a days you just never know! as for your parents saying you don’t know what love is that’s BS! But I do know that in some states you being 18 and him 15 can be a problem so be careful with that! You can not help how you feel but love is not always easy! But you can make it work My soon to be husband is getting ready to deploy and we will not see each other for a year! I know that our relationship will just grow and become stronger over that time!
Good luck and stay strong.
Try to see your parents point of view I am sure they mean well even if you do not think so. Be careful and please, please, please do not meet with this boy by yourself and don’t EVER give out your address or School name or anything like that!
Well i think its sweet that u have feelings 4 a guy that you don’t even know. My cousin has the same problem. On MySpace, facebook, and AIM. But i know i don’t want to sound like one of those people who r like “o that’s SO dangerous!!” if u like him, great. nobodies stopping u. So my cousin didn’t tell her parents, but u never know if UR parents will find out or not. and if you don’t mind me asking, where does he live and where do you live? If its one state, not a biggie, but say you live in new york and hes in California, that wont fly. He might b cheating on you or something, u don’t know him, u never know WATS going on. have u ever thought that hes maybe just a mURderer or something bad. He might ask u for ur address!
Have you ever tried video chat? U get one of those little cameras on top of the computer And u can talk there. Good luck again!
And ya megs is right 2, their r tons of dangerous people out there, so b careful!
Lol sorry its getting s little long so if u live in Nevada and he lives in California, that’s a reason y UR parents have a problem like that…. But they Should understand that you DO know what love means and make sure you tell them that
-Allison :]