Long Distance Relationship With A Marine.. Should I Do It?
So I’ve known this guy for 3 years and have pretty much had a thing for him since day one, but he was my best friends boyfriend at the the time, about a month later they hit splitsville and are still really good friends. (I’ve talked to her about this and she is totally cool and kinda excited about me and him). Well, about a month ago we both finally found out that we had feelings for each other… the problem: He’s in the Marines, and is in So. Cal at base. He still has a little over 4 years left on his enlistment contract and I have no idea what we’re going to do. We talk all the time and it pretty much kills me when I have to say good night, I really like this one. Only neither of us really think long distance will work especially because I leave for college, 2 states away in less than a month making it even further, and harder for us to visit when he does get leave. WHAT DO WE DO?!?!
my advice would be to stay in contact but not commit to anything until his service is done. Date around and what not because if you wait around for him and things dont work out then you will feel like all that time was wasted.
My wife gave up college to marry me and follow me when I joined the Marines in 1970. We have been married almost 38 years with 5 kids and 7 grandkids. However, even to this day, though we still love each other a lot, she will always throw giving up college for me in my face and it always hurts.
Try to work it out so you don’t have to give up your ambitions and desires.
I would just keep chatting with him just to see where it goes.. true love is always worth the wait! just take it one day at a time! If anything is meant to be it finds a way to work its self out!! good luck!!
Be friends——if things work out they work out. Good luck.
wait untill he is done, then try again
What’s wrong with having a long distance relationship? How do you know that you won’t meet a guy that isn’t in the military who goes to college on the other side of the country? If this relationship is going to work it doesn’t matter if you are next door to each other or on separate sides of the globe, it will work. Lots of long distance relationships have worked over the years without any problems because they loved each other enough. When I met my dh he was stationed 3,000 miles away, we made it work and have been married for over 12 years. In fact all 3 siblings and my parents had long distance relationships and they worked. If you feel strong enough about each other then take the chance otherwise you might regret it later on.
This question shouldn’t be answered according to the physical distance between you two right now but in terms of the chemistry working in the relationship. All we can do here is give you things to consider. So here’s my two cents. If he were wounded seriously would you still care about him and support him regardless of any mental or physical disability he sustained? I hope this would be the case. Or would you abandon him?
Any young man who would join the Marines already stands a head and shoulders above most of the rest of the ******* his age (that’s a military term). You can still read books and watch videos “together” (even though separated) and you can even send each other video messages on CD-Rom, DVDs, without too much difficulty.
There is no guarantee he would remain faithful to you, and marry you after his enlistment ended. It’s up to you to decide for yourself if you have a true man worth keeping and waiting around for … or a total jerk. Jerks have been known to get through Marine bootcamp.