Long Time Boyfriend Going Away To College, Some Thoughts?
Recently my boyfriend of two years and high school sweetheart told me
that he is going to UTI in PA after we graduate, its a all guys
automotive trade school about a hour away from where we live now.
I am going to a community college for two years then was planning on transferring.
Me and my boyfriend do have a
good relationship, of course we have little nit pick fights every onece
in a while but overall we do enjoy out time together. We on average see
each other everyday at some point.
I though am uncomfortable with any type of long distance thing. I am
not one to fully trust any boyfriend. But my boyfriend wants me to
possibly move in with him at the apartment he will be living in. I
personally know I cannot afford going to a college out of state, but I
might apply to a college or two anyway to see what possibilities happen.
Even if I don’t move to PA he keeps telling me he wants to be with me
and how he will be down every weekend and so on.
I just need some other opinions on this, since this is litterally making
me have such headaches from the confusion of what to do. Any words of
advice or thoughts?
I would stick to your original plan, at least for the first year to see how things play out. First off, you’ve only dated each other in high school, and let’s face it, high school relationships don’t usually last through college/life. Second, it is my own opinion that a girl should have some experience living on her own or with a roommate before she commits to living with her partner, no matter what her age. It’s just a valuable life experience. Think of all of the great stuff you’ll miss out on if you move in with your boyfriend right out of high school: meeting new people, making new and maybe lifelong friends, not having to answer to anybody but yourself, not having to share the bed (or the bathroom!), and perhaps some light to moderate partying if you’re the kind of person who enjoys that.
I think you owe it to yourself to be on your own for a bit, if for no other reason than to say that you did. Besides, if you and your boyfriend can’t handle being an hour away from each other (that would be an easy day trip), then maybe your relationship isn’t strong enough to make it through your late teens/early twenties, the years that really change you. I really believe that you will regret it if you move in with your boyfriend too soon and in a town that has nothing to offer you. You’re young, you should enjoy it!!
The only people who can work this out is you and your boyfriend. But are your parents involved? Would they want you to move to another state and live with him? do you really want to live with him? Long distance relationships rarely work…..for long. Things happen and life intervenes. give it alot of thought and best of luck to ya.
ummmmm if you really love him and wonna be with him you should move in with him cause he wants you to be with him