Relationship Question, Long Distance?
So theres this girl i really like who i first met in college last fall, we would hang out like every day for hours, that was for about 2 monthes. then i had to go back home from college and she went back home about a month after me. like we were never in a “confirmed relationship” but we were pretty much boyfriend/girlfriend we would like sleep together, not sexually but like sleep with/on eachother. well we kept in touch calling and through myspace and we always flirt with eachother, although we were in no way like a long distance relationship, we say were gonna get married and stuff on text and i call her babe and stuff and she calls me hunny. like shes a one man type of girl and like will only be physical with someone she really cares about although she flirts alot.
So im back in college but shes still home cause she didnt have the money, she wants to try visiting thanksgiving cause her sister lives near as well. but like recently ive been kinda like thinkin too much about it or something and like i always like question how much i should text her and keep in touch like alot or if i should just kinda do my thing and wait for her, like im her top guy friend on myspace behind like her girlfriends. i just dont know if i like seem like im just thinkin about her and not just living shell feel like im maybe a little needy??
So basically after that long explanation im just wondering about how i should conduct myself at college and how much i should be talking to her.
I think you should talk to her and settle what you two want to do. Leaving things open ended like this ends up hurting people. Either you’ll start to date around and then she’ll come visit and expect you two to be together or you’ll wait for her and then find out she’s been dating around.
The best thing you could do is call her or email her and explain everything and ask her what she wants to happen and then just go from there. Communication is the best thing in any relationship. Decide if you two are going to be together, or not be together, or agree to be able to date around and see where things are with you two when you see each other. You just need to talk to her finalize things to make it so the chance of one of you getting goes down.
Best of luck
long distance doesnt work
You really need to talk to her. How committed is she and what does she expect from you and most imporant what do you expect from her? Don’t sit around and wait for her unless you know she’s waiting for you! Communication is the key word here! Talk, Talk, Talk and Talk some more. You both sound really young; ask yourself are you really ready to be committed to one girl at this point in your life and then go from there. Long distance relationships can work if your both on the same page!
Well im in a long distanc relationship right now, we only spent a month together before he had to move because he is in the army, we have been together a year this month though, basically all long distance and were going to get married as soon as he gets out of the army. So long distance relationships CAN work, but you guys need to establish what you are because if she just thinks its a fling or something you dont want to waste all your time while your in college but if you want to make it official you never know, someday you could be married!
So i guess my advice is talk to her about what you guys are and then if its nothing then dont still talk and stay cool but you dont have to talk to her 24 7. If you decide to be in a long distance relationship, talk as much as you want!! Your only young once..