Should I End This Long Distance Relationship Before I Move Closer To Him?
First off, don’t judge me cuz some of the info is kinda personal.
I’ve been with this guy for almost 11 months, and for the first 8, everything was great (After I went to college things have been harder). And it’s a long distance relationship, but I planned on moving maybe like 900 miles west to a college closer to him. And if I do it’s gonna be in 3-4 weeks, when the semester ends.
But lately I just dunno about him. He’s been treating me as just some body instead of somebody, and I don’t want that at all. Like, he masterbates and stuff, and lately, as soon as he finishes he’s all like, “I’m going to bed. I’ll talk to u tomorrow. love you.”
Like today he was texting me and was like, “hey I need some help with my english paper tonight..can u help me?,” so I said yes. When I went to newspaper (I work for the university newspaper) I made sure I didn’t choose events that were tonight just so I could help him and talk to him. But when he got home he pretty much talked to me, got off, then went to bed. His plan is to wake up at 3 am (my 5 am) and do his homework. I don’t really get why he chooses to be awake when I’m sleeping and chooses to sleep when I’m awake.
The last time we talked he did the same thing. Like what the hell. I don’t talk to him for him to get off and leave. And it’s making me feel like that’s all he wants me for. I’m not gonna give someone that lame my virginity, right?
He just doesn’t seem like he used to be. I dumped him a month ago because I thought he changed from the sweet person he used to be, and I let him back into my life.
But honestly, he isn’t even really that sweet. When we first met he wrote so many poems…just because. He would always surprise me. Now he just writes poems if I dump him (I’ve dumped him once).
Deep down I know what I should do, but I don’t wanna make a wrong decision. At one point I really did love him, and it was because of everything he did. Now, I just find myself aggravated so much more often with him. He’s a douche really.
Any suggestions?
Thanks!
Lucky are ya, because you found me to answer this question. My (now ex-) girlfriend broke up with me from a long distance relationship after 8 months. She claims the distance was too much but she still tries to sneak here on trains. I’m not sure how much I can help you because I’m on the other end of your story (she dumped me, you’re dumping him), but what I think you should do is wait until the end of the semester. And also, if he doesn’t know about you moving closer, TELL HIM!! Secrets, no matter how good, should never be held quiet in a long distance relationship. My ex was the same way, I loved her so much because when we first started dating, she would leave me tons of cute inbox messages on facebook and myspace, comment all of my pictures, text me randomly telling me she loved me, called me cute names, everything. Near the end of our relationship she started almost every text with ‘hi’, never really put hearts, and just acted like I was her friend.
If there is more to the story that you aren’t telling us, and he really is bad, tell him that you miss the old him. Don’t let his threats scare you.
One thing I should tell you, is that when a guy masturbates, after he is finished, most of the time we get this feeling that makes you all sleepy or tired, which is probably why he wants to go to sleep. Yeah it may seem wrong, but that’s just a part of being a man.
If he already knows about you moving closer, in a not so mean way, tell him he should act more respectful if the girl he loves if moving closer to him. Tell him how much you miss the good-old times you two had together, things like that. Maybe the past will make him act like that again.
All in all, I wouldn’t leave him just yet. 3-4 weeks is usually about a month, and if you are 11 months in, how great would a 1 Year be if you moved closer to him
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It doesn’t really seem like it’s going anywhere. Plus if he’s writing poems that’s like a dead giveaway that he might be a ******, or at least bisexual. For real though, just deny to talk to him on the phone and see how he acts. It’s going to piss him off so much knowing that you won’t let him get off to talking to you. Either that or when he’s doing it just don’t say anything or don’t pay attention.