Successful Long Distance Relationships?
I met someone while on a trip during vacation. I enjoyed his company very much, and even though I was only around him for about 2 days, we talk all day through text, and still manage to carry on multiple hours of phone conversation a few nights a week (without ever noticing how long we are on the phone till after).
He seems to see a future with me, and while I like him a ton, I’m not so sure about the whole long distance thing. I am completing my first college degree, and he is 1500 miles away and has a career, an apartment, and just bought some property and a house. If the relationship does progress to that level I would relocate there I suppose
Has anyone had experience with this type of LDR? What were the issues/benefits of it? Could it last? I’m not sure that I could pick up and move that far away from everything I know-for him-and not feel resentment or isolation of some sort. Suggestions?
My H2B and I met in SoCal when my brother was in the Marine Corps. (I live in N.Idaho and he’s in the Navy in SoCal) We dated a while and then went our seperate ways…after 3.5 years apart, we became best friends and he supported me through my other relationships. He was an amazing friend. A while back, I broke up with my ex. When I looked at how he was treating me, I knew he wasn’t it. I realized that I had who I wanted all along, I just didn’t know b/c he was 1300 miles away. Point being, we are in a long distance relationship now b/c I am in N.Idaho and he’s in the Navy in SoCal. He asked me (informally ;o) ) to marry him and I said yes, after 5 years of knowing each other and being best friends and then dating…we both knew it was right. I am “relocating” (if that’s wha tyou want to call it) in 2 weeks. We got an apartment together and he’s coming up to drive down with me in 2 weeks.
So to answer your question. YES they can work. One of you WILL have to move b/c your relationship can’t grow if you don’t spend time together often. You BOTH have to be willing to do anything to make it work. You have to have FAITH and know that you both are truely in love. I can’t picture my life without him and can’t wait to finally have our own place. He said he’s planning to purpose formally but won’t tell me when….lol he’s so cute.
Good luck to you. Don’t give up! Just because there is distance between you two, doesn’t mean you can’t have a successful relationship. Have faith and never give up. Always follow your bliss!!!!
have fun with that!
Girl don’t even move where he lives unless you have an engagement ring!
I met my husband in september of 2004. He had just got into the military and was being shipped over seas. I knew him for 2 weeks before he left. We talked maybe once a week for an entire year. We started dating september 1, 2005. I was living in buffalo, ny and he was living in the UK at a military base. The first year of our relationship we lived that far apart. October 2006 he moved back to the states to NC, while I was still in NY. still 700 miles away. He came to visit me on long weekends and he would also take some vacation days. We got married on July 28th 2007 and I gave birth to my baby girl on October 30, 2007. LDR CAN work. The thing is, you both have to want it to work and you both have to have A LOT of trust for it to work. The benefits, i would have to say i was that I didn’t have to see him all the time. When I was mad all I had to do is hang up the phone lol. “Distance makes the heart grow fonder” I’d have to say it was such a great feeling every time I seen him. Hurted really bad to watch him leave. Good luck hope I helped even a little.
My fiance and I have spent most of our relationship at least 700 miles apart and at one time over 900 miles apart. We met briefly and met again online and developed a friendship. After a few months we found we both had feelings for each other and he flew out here to visit me and meet my family. One of us would fly to see the other once ever month or two depending on whether or not I was in school. Over the summer we spent about 10 weeks in total together. When I’m out there I’ve stayed with his parents but get to see him every day and get to his house in the morning and stay until evening. It was a good time to spend together and get to know each other even better. We realized we wanted to be married. Our long distance relationship has worked and we’re getting married in six weeks. However, if it wasn’t for spending time together in person, we wouldn’t be as close as we are. There’s no substitute for time in person together. When I was in school we only spent about four or five days together during the semester. Since graduation I’ve had time to see him and to get ready to move my things into his house and plan our wedding. Over the summer I worked on a thesis and could take that out when visiting him so I didn’t have to leave a job. We’ve made it work. It’s hard but if it’s with the right person then it’s worth it. One great benefit was that the distance forced us to get to know each other well. We had to talk in order to still have the relationship. We had to get to know each other because we couldn’t just go out to dinner and gaze into each other’s eyes. I would suggest taking it slow. Keep getting to know each other. Try to find a way to visit each other for a weekend or during a holiday. Start slow and don’t let your emotions get ahead of you. Keep open communication and talk every day. Don’t move out there until you’re engaged. My fiance and I aren’t living together until we’re married and I would suggest you stay put for now. Maybe after visiting and some time passes you can move out there (but not with him) to just get used to it and still have some independence instead of just moving in with him.
hey i met this guy and chatted with him for only 3 days, he’s from downunder n he’s a bodybuilder, cute and funny guy too, but after a month or so we decided to break up ‘coz of something that turns me off about him, he’s just cannot be tusted it’s not easy to handle LTR matters you know…
The only suggestion is the obvious one.
One of you has to move closer to the other, or the both of you need to move on with your lives.
It is just that plain and simple.
Use your credit card and collect mileage points for free flights.