Boyfriend…sex…basketball..…
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months now and I love him dearly. Well I tell every one that I love them but its deeper than that I feel for others. Anyway, he is younger than me by 10 months (such a coincidence) and he has had sex before. I am 17 turning 18 and I am still a virgin. He wants to have sex but I don’t feel like I am ready. Here is the catch 22, I want to but I was raped when I was younger so every time we reach the undressing stage I start having flashbacks and can’t go on any more.
2) We have been dating so long I guess I am starting to feel like it is time for a change of scenery and test the waters. I want to be with him but with me going off to college and him still being a sophomore in high school, the long distance thing just wont work for me.
3) All I really want to do is play basketball but I don’t know how to be all about ball and maintain a relationship and 4.00 GPA. Something has got to give.
What do I do??? My sanity is my happiness. Please help!
When Your Long Distance Boyfriend Seems.. Distant?
My boyfriend and I have been long distance for nearly a year now and haven’t seen each other since December. We are both excited to see one another in about 3 weeks. I am going to transfer to college there hopefully for the spring semester because the distance really bothers us.
We talk on webcam and he seems distant. I am always so excited to see him on cam. His response is usually that although he likes seeing me he wishes he could just be with me physically. When I ask him if he is bored or if he really wants to talk he seems genuinely offended and says he loves me and wants to talk to me. Last night I was a little confused because I took my top off for him (a first, we haven’t had sex yet) and although he liked it, when I asked if I should take anything else off, he wanted me to but also wanted to take it one step at a time. Please note that I am 20 yrs old and still a virgin, he is over 30, so I’m wondering if maybe this is part of it? I feel like he really loves me but I’m curious as to why he does this. I know a lot is going on in both our lives and that the distance is really bothersome. What could be the reason?
