What Are The Pros And Cons Of Open Long Distance Relationships?
My boyfriend and I have been together for long time.
I’m going away to college and he can’t move with me and I can’t stay.
So those options are out.
We’ve had discussions about this and I suggest being friends and he’s suggests an open ldr. He’s not selling me the idea. In fact he’s doing the complete opposite (on top of the fact that I do not believe in LDR especially in OPEN ones).
What are the the pros and cons of an open long distance relationship?
Being friends is better than one person wanting an open relationship and the other person, not. Your boyfriend wants the freedom to date, sex other females and still have you. Not good if you aren’t open to this (and you shouldn’t). Ask him if it is ok for you to have sex with another guy.
Don’t do it. If you are not comfortable with it, you’d have to have a lot of trust in him and he’s made his intentions/wants/desires known.
Honestly, my ex and I tried to do the same thing when I went away to college. Most of the time, I’d hate to say it, but it doesn’t work. College is a time when you should be out there and not being held back by a relationship. Absence does make the heart grow fonder, but only if both of you are on the same page, and it sounds like you guys are not- if he wants and open relationship (does that really even qualify as a relationship anyways) and you want to stay in a committed one. You can try to be friends, but I think that you would be better off just seeing him when you come home on vacations from school and iming other times.
Pros
- When you see each other then the relationship will become stronger and you all will be more in love than ever
- Your communication over phone and computer will strengthen and become more often
Cons
- You will soon become out of love with him
- You might find someone else
- He might find someone else
- You’ll always wonder if he has found someone else
Seriously though, this will not work. ESPECIALLY an OPEN LDR? That is more like long-distance friends. Just call it quits now and move on. Things happen…
Depends on how far you guys are, it may be manageable.
However, you clearly state here that you do not believe in LDR or open relationships. You should stick to how you feel.
Pros: get to be “single”, fool around, with the comfort of calling him at the end of the day.
Cons: meeting someone else you fall for and ruining the relationship (that’s what happened to me), jealousy.
pros: you get to stay with your bf.
cons: you probably won’t get to see him alot.
you’ll be tied down to one guy, you should have more experiences
you start to become more distant with eachother
you might start getting parinoid about him cheating
i really dont believe in ldr either. i think you guys should breakup and date around a bit. have some fun. college is about starting over and you shouldn’t drag your highschool sweetheart with you, unless you really love him. which, it kinda doesnt sound that way if you want to breakup. just do what your heart tells you.
well the first con is they don’t work over 90% of the time which makes them a total waste of your time and mental effort. The major pro is that you don’t see them all the time so it’s always relatively exciting. All in all I don’t think it’s worth the time or effort and yes I have done this.
There are no pros…
Definately a lot a cons.
it’s not a real relationship
he’s having his cake and eating it too
OPEN LDR = friends
Honestly that is a crappy relationship, theres no pros to a LDR
Pros:
If you can survive the long distance relationship, on top of the fact being able to see other people, and still come back to one another, you must have a strong trust.
You have someone to fall back to if anything should happen, and at the same time get a little bit more social than you would if it were more steady.
Pretty good life experience, as you get to learn about different ideas and opinions that you can bring forth to your more commiting relationship, with whomever that is.
Is a bit less costly than being long-distance and comitted. Phone calls, text messages, snail-mail/packages, etc.
Cons:
Very likely to be heart-wrenching, especially if he finds someone before you do. Jealousy can set in…
Trust although can be gained, is very painful to accustom to and obtain to such a great strength as to be adaptable to this kind of relationship…
Friends might disapprove..
Guilt.